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Why are female erotic writers sooo good at writing? When I read erotic stories, I prefer stories wriiten by female authors. I think, I somehow can relate to female phantasies more than to male ones. Do most of them actually write down their own real phantasies, or do they try to figure out male phantasies?
Maybe little parts of my character is a bit female but I am definitely not gay. I am still attracted to females only. | Tan,
When writing love scenes in my stories, I tend to write the same way I make love. Women know what they want from eroticism and dwell deeper into it than their male counterparts at times. I see it as playing her body like a fine tuned instrument and that's what they like. Perhaps it's that some male authors of erotic stores are a bit embarrassed to let themselves go.
PJ M | Hinduism accepts homosexuality,then why is there a double standard in male gays and lesbians ? Ok ok, before hindu`s or ppl from my culture blast me please hear me out ok, this is the thing, Homosexuality in hinduism is accepted, you can read thru the scriptures, there is aplenty of gay gods in hinduism and its also is accepted in kamasutra, as far as i know in kamasutra or in hinduism its ok for you to have any kind of sexual fantasy, as long as it doesnt wreck havoc in another persons life and mentally its healthy, there is tons of stories where ppl who are gay marries the person of opposite sex because out of love,, yes love and they are in love because the partner is also a gay or bisexual, this makes the partnership strong while the partner can have other sexual escapades, this is how it has been in india or hindu marriages, its the freedom that hinduism gives but why does the modern hindu have a double standard for women ? look at the kamasutra temple, lesbianism is a accepted thing and its a erotic thing, | Appreciate the pains you have taken to elicit how accepting Hinduism has been of homosexuality, but that concept was way in the past, much before Hindu philosophy was influenced by invaders from outside. That included attacks from the middle eastern Islamic fanaticists, who later made India their home, and greatly influenced the culture here. If you remember, the purdah system, the Johar, and suttee came to the fore at such times.
Then came the Christian missionaries through European settlements in India. That was another huge influence on how people viewed morality. The Indian penal code still follows the British model laid out during Queen Victoria's reign. While the British have long moved ahead with the times, India still grapples with the cultural kedgeree it has become over the many years of dominance of other philosophies.
And, double standards or not, many Indians find it easier to hide in their closet, get married, while still leading a double life on the sly. The issue is socio-cultural than religious. The way parenting and rearing your guyren is treated in India, and expectations of parents that their guy follow their dreams or live according to their expectations is to be blamed for a fear of daring to be different in Indian society. | Please help, am I gay? Hey! thanks so much for visiting this, providing an answer will mean a lot as im actually very stressed/confused/tired from all this analysing.
FIRSTLY: Some of the following information is slightly graphic. Proceed with caution. haha
Ok
-Im 18 years old, male.
-Ive had a girlfriend who i think i loved, and have had multiple sexual encounters with females. -Enjoyed all of them, and loved just being with the girls in general in terms of cuddling/kissing/everything else
-I always check out women on the street, and can get aroused just by looking at them sometimes.
-I never check men out, and have never found a guy friend sexually attractive, or any guy i know sexually attractive, when with them
However:
-I sometimes masturbate to gay porn (25% of the time)
-It all started when my maths tutor made numerous attempts to advance on me, all of which I (utterly disgusted) rejected.
-At the time i didnt want anything to do with him and felt sick just thinking about him. But now that I havent seen him in ages since i fired him, I sometimes imagine what COULD have happened, and that thought gets me aroused. If he showed up I no doubt would not want to ever do anything with him, but when i imagine the situation i find something very erotic about it.
-I masturbate to the thought of me pleasing him, and imagine myself to be like desperate for sex..
So what i do is i read up similar situation gay porn stories and masturbate to them.
I dont find anything amazing about this tutor at all, I cant view him as attractive and he has a crappy personality. Note: I dont feel attracted to him and didnt when i knew him.
But in my imaginationed scenarios, Im attracted to him and hes desperate for me too. And for some messed up reason, i find that really arousing.
I wouldnt ever want to engage in a romantic relationship with a male. Ive never had a "crush" on a guy.
I would not call my fantasy a "crush" at all, its more like a completely sexual fantasy.
I want to know if im turning gay, or if im already gay, or if im bi.
I dont want to be gay because I dont want a relationship with a male, its simply not what i want.
But something about my fantasy is really arousing, more arousing than watching lesbian porn.
Im so sorry if ive put a really bad picture in your head. If you can help me, please do. | | It seems that you are aroused by both sexes (bisexual) since you like women and watch gay porn. I'm not exactly sure why it's so important to put a label on your sexuality though... I guess its just something society says you need to know. You like what you like, and you shouldn't base yourself on a title and what stereotype that title brings. | Did I turn into a lesbian because of what I did? Well, this is kind of embarrassing but I have to ask.
When I was about 11-12, I started to read 'erotic' stories. I started out reading heterosexual stories, then when I found out about the lesbian category, I knew I was more.. 'fascinated' by it. So since then, I've only ever gotten off on lesbian erotica. I never watched pornography at that time, just that it was in written format.
I remember that I've always been interested in girls.. you know, in that book/movie (non-erotic) I was always drawn to that girl. I never realized that up until now.
I feel guilty. Did I turn into a lesbian because I read lesbian erotica when I was young? (I'm 16 now). I am turned off by heterosexual/gay male erotica/p*rnography - I did try it, but it didn't turn me on. | Although some pundits may disagree, the simple answer is "no".
Would you become a murderer if you had a passion for reading murder mysteries?
It is debatable how much the repeated exposure to any source of media can influence the shaping of one's intellect and/or morals, but I think that it is generally believed that exposure to any stimuli , whether "positive" or "negative", even upon repeated exposure, has little, if any, potential for shaping the mental outlook and feelings of an average person who is non-pathological.
If he is however, "negative" stimuli, instead of being processed via our filters of sanity, will instead possibly be viewed and be misconstrued for the convenience of 'fitting into' and/or reinforcing the inflicted's pathology.
(e.g., A person who is mentally disturbed may be inspired to commit a crime by reading a murder mystery.)
Being gay and/or lesbian is not an illness and is certainly not considered a pathology by all psychiatrists of any repute living today.
Therefore, in short, you have absolutely nothing at all to worry about.
Conversely, gays of course can't be made straight as well, simply by reading heterosexual erotic literature.
Sigh. If it were only that easy! | Some gay guys on here think that gay men who use straight porn are strange. What is your opinion? I'm a 37 yr old bi-male btw . I am conscious that I use straight porn for two reasons:
1) Because I like seeing women naked - being bi and all...
2) Because on some level I can imagine myself BEING that woman - including being made love to by a man if that is the scenario pictured. This despite that in real life, I tried that and it REALLY didn't work for me...
DO any of you other gay/bi males feel the same when YOU see a picture of a woman being made love to?????
Also, does erotic fiction - if you use it (and I do from time to time...) work equally well for you if you read a story of a young woman being made a "slave" to a dominant "master" (or mistress) for example. Is it within the scope of your imagination to place yourself in the role of that woman and to become her as you are reading...or did you find the very idea unthinkable????? | | I'm a strait man and I don't think that's strange as I don't think a strait man watching gay porn would be strange or any other combo. People are just curious and all sorts of things turn people on. People are obsessed with sex and it's completely normal. Humans are obsessed with anything that's vital to our survival as a race. | Is it possible for a straight man to turn gay? I was just wondering, because I would love to be gay since most women are not aroused by male bodies/ are "personality" (BS- they go for bad-boys) oriented, and non-visual (BS again).“For heterosexual women, looking at a naked man walking on the beach is about as exciting as looking at landscapes.” Dr Chivers
Guys could lose A LOT due to biological mistakes. Now we know the "mutual attraction" thing is BS and sexual attraction is asymmetrical, leaning towards woman's benefit: the men want the women, and the women want to be wanted. Quite frankly, ive had it with women, my last visit to a local pub (which is where I normally go to chill out) which changed its owners & name, I was not let inside by the new staff, saying that my clothing was "inappropriate" (I was wearing a baggy shirt and some 3quarter denim shorts, i've been a regular there for 3 years), and then I saw women dressed in ONLY lace up bras just get in!! Talk about inappropriate, thats just plain unfair!!!! Anyway, I got changed, I walk into the bar and bang! In front of me 3 drunk girls barely dressed dancing on the table!!! If a man did that he would be out of the bar in an instant!!!! This is what happened to my modest pub: become sexualised with women, who are not even attracted to male bodies and are more into attention!!!!: “women’s desire is narcissistic” — it is dominated by the yearnings of “self-love,” by the wish to be the object of erotic admiration and sexual need, more than finding the male bodies arousing." Hmmmm, makes so much sense why women never get me laid anymore even though im good looking, and i got a great body, im smart, and im one hell of a nice person....... its because im shy & women are turned on more by agressive "bad-boy"/rich men who place them on a sexual pedestal, than by being aroused by the male body in itself in the same way we men are aroused by the female body................ it also explains why my ex left me for a "bad-boy" fling
What gets me angry the most is that, I cant help but be physically turned on by that chauvinistic display of female flesh in public, even though I hate it with a passion. Id be cool with it if women were actually TURNED ON by male bodies in the same way we are turned on by the female bodies, but that is not the case: male strip clubs dont exist, playgirl went broke whilst playboy sold millions, so many stories of "model marries millionare", etc, i could go on forever.....................
But im just not aroused by male bodies, is it possible to turn gay or is it a genetic thing that I cant control?? Heterosexual men are born to suffer!!! | Hello Brett. I wish you would just try other women...not just the kind that hang out in pubs. Try something like EHarmony and specify that you want a woman with a very strong sex drive...there are many of us out there. And there are plenty of women looking for good men but they are peppered in with other women looking for a thrill.
Women interestingly enough, have similar difficulties. We watch helplessly as men continually choose the dumbest women....
Before I got married, at 28, I was tempted to *try* and join my lesbian friends in their lifestyle. It was difficult for me to find good men, and I am a former pageant queen and bikini model and a really intelligent and open-minded person.
But it was unfair to "try out" someone else's sexuality, just as it would be unfair to pretend to be an English person or a French person until I "got used to it". So I decided against it and not too long after started meeting much better men.
To specifically answer your question, YES, you can date other men. And frankly, every man that I have ever met who started sleeping with other men and wasn't turned off it initially eventually became gay. My understanding is that men know other men's bodies better than women do and the sex is often much better. Ditto for women I know who started sleeping with other women.
In any case, many in the LGBT dislike the people who are "man haters" or "woman haters" and try to date them and as I said "try out" their lifestyle.
You should always try new things from a position of strength and not one of desperation or weakness, anyway. For instance, you should look for work when you feel confident, hopefully *BEFORE* you leave your current position and not when you feel defeated or depressed.
I wish you well Brett and I hope you will try other avenues and such to meet women. | What do u think of my life? Im not even going to get into my life growing up and what ive been through but here is what my life basically is now and tell me what u think ? I'm afraid once I write and read it, im gonna realize how messed up my life really is and become more depressed but let me know what u think.....
I'm 28 yrs old, gay male. I do nude erotic massages for men. Have been for about 6 yrs, my family (who I hardly talk to) lives only a hour away and have no idea...they think I wait tables yet I live in a 4 story townhouse & have a 09 Mercedes...but don't let the fancy car and nice home fool u...I am severely depressed. Keep asking myself why I keep living. I do well at massages but biz has been slow lately & I feel like I'm getting too old to be doing this and I get insecure and I just hate what I do anymore but it's all I know. i never had a real job and dropped out of school & have no education.
I was seeing a married man for 3 yrs (yes i know thats messed up) and found out this guy lied about everything..from his name, to what he does for a living, stupid little stuff...I ended up telling his wife. This was alittle over a year ago and I'm still really depressed about it...feel dumb that I believed this guy & hated and blamed myself. I still do. I know I shouldn't but I do. I let this man lie and use me and who was I guyding...he is a attorney and I'm just a dumb massage guy with no real education....
My best friend won't talk to me anymore (long story) and I really don't see anyone or do anything besides see clients and do massages. This biz I'm in has made me isolated because u never know when a guy might call so I'm basically on call all the time and I don't like to go out and meet people to b friends with or date cuz I'm afraid they will just judge me cuz of what I do ore pretend to b there for me and then lie and use me and hurt me like that guy and a lot of people have done to me in my life. Even my family. That's why I hardly talk to them.
I try to eat very healthy but One of my big demons is I'll smoke weed and get the munchies and eat a lot...like a whole bag of chips or eat a carton of ice cream and then go in the bathroom and puke it up...I do this almost every day.
So that's basically my life...I feel like its pretty meaningless and hopeless and i hate it & really don't understand why god gave me this life...I feel like deep down im a good person & deserve happiness...yet I can't help but think I must have done something and deserve this.... but let me know what u think...anything | You sound more like a male prostitute.
Were you raped at a young age. | Rate my story plz!!!? Okay, the illiterate titles get more hits, so....
Please, tell me what you think of my story. Here's the description and part of one of the chapters. If you steal it, I'll personally make sure you brun in hell.
Either way, it's copywrited, so you'll go to jail.
" Love can appear in the strangest forms, situations, and places. In my new boylove story, ‘Bite of Fangs’, love certainly does appear in the strangest of people. In the story, the young, handsome Jude Baker meets the perfect, mature Dr. Marcus Jones, and his life begins to turn upside-down. When he meets Dr. Jones, he is bewildered by his cool, pale skin, perfect features, and long, strawberry blonde hair. When Dr. Jones ends up beating him and abducting him from his loved ones, Jude starts realizing that no human being can be that perfect. The secrets of Jude’s past start overwhelming his life.
‘“Bite of Fangs’ is an erotic story about two males, so it is rated M, and not recommended for people offended by gay love. It is also a vampire/werewolf fantasy story. The form of vampires and werewolves that I chose are like the ones that are quite popular in the series ‘Twilight’. ‘Bite of Fangs’ has been predicted to become a very popular online story, and only in the third chapter, it has already gotten many hits.
I was inspired to write this story after reading a small excerpt on the roleplaying site, gaia online. I finally decided to actually write it after seeing a very well-done portrait on an art site, deviant art. I then decided to make the relationship partially one-sided. The age difference of 16 to 181 was chosen after watching a popular boylove anime, ‘Loveless’. I will now present a preview from ‘Bite of Fangs’.
‘Opening my eyes slowly, I awaken on a soft bed with silky, white sheets. The white is not even a slightest bit off… It’s more pure then any white I’ve laid my eyes on. It hurts my head. Crismon red petals of roses are scattered over the bed, like they do with a married couple, right after they say those dreaded, permanent vows. I taste my own blood and some type of fabric in my mouth. The gag is as red as the petals, and my blood blends in quite well. I’m so lightheaded from the blood loss that my head is spinning, and I can barley see. Even so, my vision manages to focus on…him. I notice that he doesn’t care about the pain I am in right now. His perfect face now makes me angry, and his twisted little smile makes the anger cloud my mind even more. He sits in an Oak chair, legs crossed, mocking me. His off-white pants are stained with my blood, as well as his perfectly white shirt. His strawberry blonde hair is draped over his shoulder, and now that I think of it, he’s way too perfect to be human. I wish I would have noticed that before. His shirt is opened in the middle, showing off his muscles; the reason why I’m in this predicament in the first place. His eyes are the thing that angers me the most. The beautiful, bright blue eyes I had remembered… now faded into a blood thirsty shade of red.’
I thank you for your time, and please give me an opinion of my new story. That is all." | | meh... | War, religion, and gay rights? What do you think of this article by JAMES CARROLL?
War, religion, and gay rights
By James Carroll | November 13, 2006
IN JERUSALEM, Muslims and Jews have found common cause: attacking gay people.
A gay pride parade was scheduled for Friday. In Palestinian areas, Muslim leaders vigorously condemned homosexuality as criminal, and in ultra-Orthodox neighborhoods, Jewish demonstrators staged raucous protests. As a result, organizers canceled the parade. One of them said, "Now we are being dragged back into the dark world of religion."
In US elections last week, while a wave of change was reversing the nation's conservative direction, a counterwave crested, and it, too, attacked gays.
On the ballot in eight states were amendments defining marriage as between a man and woman, a direct repudiation of the right of homosexual couples to marry. In seven of those states, the amendment passed. One of those was Colorado, where a leader of the anti-gay-marriage movement, Pastor Ted Haggard, had, the week before, been forced out of his position as head of New Life Church in Colorado Springs because of an alleged relationship with a male prostitute. In his resignation letter, Haggard confessed, "I am a deceiver and a liar. There is a part of my life that is so repulsive and dark that I've been warring against it all my adult life."
In Massachusetts, ahead of last week's constitutional convention, the Commonwealth's four Catholic bishops took a rare political initiative, calling on Catholics to pressure legislators to support an anti-gay-marriage amendment here. The convention recessed without taking action, but the bishops had demonstrated the absolute priority of rolling back the right of gays to marry. When public crises are defined by an immoral American war, universal cuts in social services, violence among young people, resurgent nuclear arsenals, rising global inequity, unprecedented jeopardy of the earth itself, why are the bishops obsessed with this particular question?
Same-sex erotic love is not the issue. Humans, including Catholic bishops, have long accommodated it. But that accommodation assumes denial and shame. What brings demonstrators into streets across cultures, and what shows up in the United States as "values" politics, mobilizing bishops, is the movement to bring homosexuality out of the dark.
When gay people openly assert their identities as such, whether through parades or through the demand for full and equal social recognition, reactionaries cannot stand it. Why?
Two answers, one personal and one political. The open affirmation of gay identity can pose a mortal threat to people whose own sexual identity is insecure. The Haggard story is a cautionary tale. As it happens, I was present last year to hear Pastor Ted preach a sermon at his mega-church, and it included a digressive attack on homosexuals that was as venomous and it was gratuitous. He equated gay sex with bestiality.
Even at the time, I wondered about the dark energy of his hatred. That it is revealed now as self-hatred comes as no surprise. One needn't draw a direct line from Haggard's behavior to the private morality of Catholic bishops to sense that the church's own deepening insecurity on all matters of sexuality, especially those surfaced by the still unresolved crisis of priestly sexual abuse of guyren, informs its exceptional opposition to gay rights.
And so in Jerusalem. The insecurities of male establishments, whose dominance over women is threatened, readily explode in contempt for any _expression of gay pride. Patriarchy is at issue.
There is a deflection here, and that points to the political use of gay bashing. At the end of the Cold War, when the Pentagon defined itself as the world's largest closet by decreeing "don't ask, don't tell," the issue of gays in the military was being used to deflect attention from the military's real problem: how to maintain Cold War levels of spending, and a Cold War nuclear arsenal, without a Cold War enemy?
The real "don't ask, don't tell" was "Don't ask us about our budgets and nukes, and we won't tell you about the future wars they will enable." All of the Sturm und Drang about gays in the military deflected American attention from the real issue of the moment, and it worked. The American Cold War ethos is still with us.
The human race is undergoing a massive cultural mutation. The meaning of sexuality is being transformed as biology revolutionizes reproduction. Women are demanding equality across the globe. Men are being forced to reimagine their familial and social roles. Gays and lesbians are at the center of these changes. Their refusal to be silent and invisible is one of the era's great resources, a magnificent sign of hope.
James Carroll's column appears regularly in the Globe | | I think it hits it on the head. I think the public only wants to hear scandal and not admit defeat. I think organized religion has used fear and use of lies to get what it feels is holy. I was so sick of what was going on until this recent election I thought me and my parter were going to have to move out of the country. VOTE!!! STAND UP AND BE HEARD! | Is President Bush a homosexual? After all, he was a Yale cheerleader.
Is Bush A Homosexual?
> > >
> > > Bush Homosexual Allegations Resurface In New
> Book
> > >
> > > Allegations that George W. Bush performed a homosexual act on
> > current U.S. Ambassador to Poland Victor Ashe in the mid-1980's have
> > resurfaced in the tell-all memoirs of the woman who first made
> > the claim.
> > >
> > > Leola McConnell, former Liberal Democratic Candidate for Governor
> > of Nevada and one time prostitute-for- hire, was met with
> > deafening silence on behalf of the majority of the corporate
> > media last year when she sensationally alleged that Bush and
> > Ashe regularly hired bisexual men for secret sex sessions in
> > the 80's when Bush was a private citizen.
> > >
> > > "In 1984 I watched George W. Bush enthusiastically and expertly
> > perform a homosexual act on another man, one Victor Ashe," said
> > McConnell.
> > >
> > > "Ashe is the current U.S. ambassador to Poland; and he too
> > should come out, like former New Jersey Gov. James McGreevy, and admit
> > to being a gay American."
> > >
> > > "Other homo-erotic acts were also performed by then-private
> > citizen George W. Bush. I know this because I performed one of
> > them on him myself."
> > >
> > > According to Radar Online, in the year since McConnell made
> > the claim, she has been subjected to constant harassment and
> > death threats. An attempt to get her story told in the pages of
> > Larry Flynt's Hustler Magazine fell through, so she has chosen to
> > self-publish a series of memoirs called Lustful Utterances.
> > >
> > > In the books, McConnell (pictured below) also claims to
> > expose a network of clientele that regularly enjoyed her
> > "services", most of which come from the Evangelical wing of the
> > Republican Party and the Neo-Con crowd.
> > >
> > > Bush is a regular attendee at the all-male Bohemian Grove club, an
> > annual gathering of the elite which takes place at a forest
> > encampment in Monte Rio, California. In 2004, the New York Post
> > reported that homosexual porn stars were being hired by the
> > Grove to "service" the members, supposedly without their
> > knowledge.
> > >
> > > However, the Grove is notorious for its homosexual activity
> > and a reporter who worked at the camp during the summer of 2004
> > and 2005 told us that he was regularly propositioned by men
> > seeking homosexual intercourse.
> > >
> > > On June 29 1989, the Washington Times' Paul M. Rodriguez and
> > George Archibald reported on a Washington D.C. prostitution
> > ring that had intimate connections with the White House
> > allegedly all the way up to President George H.W. Bush.
> > According to the story, male prostitutes had been given access
> > to the White House and the article also cited evidence of
> > "abduction and use of minors for sexual perversion."
> > >
> > > Photos of George W. Bush embracing Jeff Gannon, the gay
> > escort turned fake news reporter, who was allowed unmitigated
> > access to the White House press corps with no background
> > investigation or credentials, were popular at the height of the
> > Gannon/Guckert scandal. | | He doesnt have enough class to be a homosexual. |
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